Okay so you have just found out that getting into any relationship means having bumps along the way. To tell you the truth, it can sometimes get as petty as a cat fight or even as nasty as a divorce – in a nutshell, you have to accept the fact that relationships are not perfect, no matter how much you both want it to be. A relationship is composed of two separate thinking individual with different choices, preferences, opinions and thoughts and it is normal that sometimes conflicts would arise. But how does one act positively on these conflicts so it gets resolve right away? Below are some sure shot ways on raising the white flag and replace it with a mushy heart shaped banner for peace.
Listen to your partner. One components of a healthy conversation is a good listener. If your partner wants to tell you something, try to lend them your ear. It will also help you understand the other person more. This will also give them the impression that when it is time for you to talk, they should also extend the same courtesy. With good listening, there is greater chance for proper exchange of thoughts, therefore conflicts, no matter how big or small, can be given attention to.
Do not be afraid to speak up. This doesn’t mean by shouting or using vulgar or arrogant words. Yes you may feel very pissed at the moment but you can still send the same message by using words that are strong and direct but still full of respect. Remember that speaking up should not be able to hurt the person, rather make the other person understand why you are feeling that way or what you think or prefer at the moment so s/he can see where you are coming from. Aside from listening, proper communication is also possible with proper use of words, tone and even hand gestures.
Never scrimp on saying the S word – Sorry. Like I love You’s, saying sorry (especially when you mean it) should be done generously. When you are at fault, do not let your pride get in the way by admitting your shortcoming. All the talking and listening won’t do if both parties do not practice telling the other person that they are sorry. Apologies don’t make you less of a person rather it shows how much you value the relationship you have with the other and how you never meant to do such a thing.
Resolving conflicts may seem like a piece of cake but to most of us, these three simple things are the hardest to do. Remember having the intention to mend the conflict with the person who is very important to you should make the process easier. Who says you can’t do anything for love?